About my services 

I began consulting with families and helping them with their children’s behaviour in London in 2008. I was known as the 'No Nonsense Nanny' and I used all of the 'Super Nanny's discipline techniques - from time-outs to reward charts, removing privileges and dealing out consequences. Unfortunately, more often than not, those techniques failed to work long term. In fact, they made the behaviour worse!

I started to see the effects of adult-imposed punishments on the children's' emotional intelligence and sense of self. I realised I could not make children behave well by making them feel worse. My focus had to change. 

I began looking beyond the challenging behaviour and into who that child really was (their temperament). I noticed a pattern of differences across four distinct natures, each requiring a different response to unwanted behaviours. 

Further research led me to find that a change in behaviour occurred when the temperament of the child was recognised and nurtured. That is, when the environment supported the nature of the child, they grew happier and more cooperative. 

I developed a method of nurturing each nature in order promote cooperation. Since then, I have had great success working with parents struggling to cope, giving them insight into why children behave the way they do, and what they can do about it.

My first step includes identifying the child's nature and pin pointing any needs of that nature that have not been met.  This information will fundamentally change how you respond your children.

The second step is looking at any challenging behaviours, and the child's under-developed skills causing those behaviours, such as:

  • Frustration tolerance

  • Emotional regulation

  • Conflict resolution (respectful debating skills)

  • Grace and courtesy skills

  • Handling transitions

  • Appreciating how their behavior is affecting others

  • Persisting on challenging or tedious tasks

  • Maintaining focus

  • Deviating from rules or routines, and 

  • Inflexible/inaccurate interpretations/cognitive distortions (I am stupid)

Finally, I show parents how these skills can be taught very simply, resulting in cooperation and connection in the family. 

 

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